For those who needed it

Hey yall! Its Amy or Enkhnaran or Enkee haha! I am a Mongolian nomadic soul currently working at the city administration of Iwakura, Aichi as Coordinator for International Relations (CIR). I have been living in Japan for almost 5 years and this is the first time for me to share my personal notes with you all. First of all, I absolutely NEED to address the fact that I do not intend to be seen as a "Blogger" nor do I have the determined time and effort to be one. I am a person that likes to share what is on her mind and welcomes any criticisms, thoughts, compliments, and opinions with others.

Ever since I started using Instagram and building connections with others, I have learned the useful and effective ways of using social media for greater purposes like sharing important information, asking for opinions or just finding the right inspiration. However, many say the opposite of social media as "the game of comparison", "confidence killer" or "The stalker material". While all of them might be true, my intention is very very different.

This is a simple "note" for those who care and who read and most importantly for those who need it. So if you are not on any of the lists above, you do not have to read and I do not mind if you want to share or not, it is totally up to you! In order for me to share these more effectively on the "swipe up" section of Instagram where I can get the access to most people, I had to create a link that could be shared with others first. Which is why blogger.com was my easiest option.

I appreciate how some people who don't really know me think so nice of me to ask such valuable life opinions and advices. For those, I am actually really grateful because the simplest form of nice words have the biggest effect on my mood and determines how I act throughout the day. I never take any single compliment or positive thoughts for granted and it actually makes me want to become a better person day by day which is why I also truly enjoy doing the same for others. I also want to clarify the fact that WHAT YOU SEE ON SOCIAL MEDIA IS WHAT OTHERS WANT YOU TO SEE and you can't assume or judge anyone based on their image or portfolio unless you actually had the chance to meet with them in person this goes the same for me too. I am also definitely NOT saying that everything you see on social media is false and fake because that would be a complete incorrect information. Most people actually act exactly the same in person as they do behind their phones and I would like to think that I am the same or at least so I've been told that's true but how I see myself vs how others see me is also a different story and I am okay with both.

However, this is for those who are really curious and interested in the minds and perspective of others and for those who like to exchange wisdom and knowledge, experience and failures to shape who they want to become or who they want to be. Things have changed a lot for me over the past few years since coming to Japan. Both mentally and emotionally, I have had many thoughts and experiences that really affected me in various ways but I would not change it in any other way. Many say that I am this optimistic energetic girl which I am happy to hear because I really want to live my life with that brightness but I am only human and without a doubt has my breakdown moments, vulnerable days and anxious nights like ALL OF YOU!

In order to have a smooth relation and communication with others and yourself, I find the following 3 thoughts to be my essential life mottos to survive this hectic world and lifestyle.

- Learning to accept others as they are

- Enjoying "solititude and loneliness" as much as possible

- Taking mental health into consideration

1. Learning to accept others as they are.

Oh, how it took me much patience and time to learn this fact and I can't say I fully mastered this simple but difficult rule of life. Why do we have to think that we need to accept or be accepted by everyone we encounter? Why do we HAVE to be liked by or like everyone we meet? Everyone has their own unique personalities and ways of viewing life so why does it have to match yours in order for you to be friends with that person? Who says that? like why? It took me a few rolls of eyes to realize the harsh truth. I like meeting new people and learning as many things as possible from them. Everyone we meet has a different story and something you might or might not like but in the end, if it gives you another perspective on life, consider yourself lucky and that person worthy. We really should accept others as how they want to be because they do not need to be liked by you and neither should you.

2. Enjoying "solitude and loneliness" as much as possible.

Okay, I know what you are thinking. What's a girl with a long-term relationship and full of cool ass friends has to say about loneliness and solititude? The answer is A LOT. Maybe it is a too short amount of time for me to talk about this topic but after living all by myself with no other person to come home to for the past year and a half, I actually have a completely different and good opinion about solitudeness. Especially for young people like us, we need time to ourselves more than ever to figure things out and actually have that "Me time". It differs for people, I get it. Some people enjoy being alone, others literally need others to survive their lives but I made my peace with them both. I realized that, before building a marriage and a family, solitude time gives you the simple joy and opportunity to create that FULL attention and freedom just for yourself to prepare the better you for the future obstacles and self-actualization. So it is okay to be lonely and have some time for yourself because like anything else, it won't last. So why not make it something worthwhile?

3. Taking mental health into consideration.

Now this one is really important, I can't even address enough. Why did I not know that my state of mental health determines the quality of my life and happiness? Man was I stupid or carefree before. Overthinking and being stressed over pointless things is my forte and always have been and still is. This is something I fight for and try to improve every single day but I am glad to say that I did make some positive process towards it, which is also the reason why I feel like I should share this too. After reading dozens of articles and blogs and news about mental health happiness, there is one that actually worked on me. It might be something you've heard before but if you haven't tried using it, I strongly suggest that you do. It is to "FOCUS ON YOUR BLESSINGS" and don't try to say that you don't have any because even you know that's not true. You can do this by doing meditation or yoga which will take another full of pages to explain how and why so I won't say much right now. 

I never realized that focusing on what you don't have or can't do has a HUGE influence on your mental health in a very damaging way. Complaining and saddening over the things that can be eventually changed in the future instead of focusing and appreciating the things you have or done is a total joy killer and has long-term negativity on how you perceive life and yourself. If you can't do anything about it at the moment just stop it and switch your mood to your blessings. Do you have someone you love? Do you have food, internet access which you are using to read this right now, water and a roof over your head or clothes to wear? Consider yourself WAY WAY WAY more blessed than many people could not imagine in this lifetime because that is your simplest form of BLESSINGS which we fail to notice. The rest is something you can figure out yourself.

Thank you so much for reading and please share any thoughts and opinions you have regarding my simple note. As I mentioned before, this is not a blog or a guidance to solve any of your problems. This is just a simple memo that I really enjoyed writing, so hopefully the same feeling goes for you! Might write something later but no promises to do so any sooner (if anyone even actually waits for it haha)

- Peace out, yo girl Amy!